Gay dating playing hard to get
You may have spent a romantic weekend in Napa with a woman, then caught her online again on Monday morning. She may genuinely want to date around and keep her options open at this time.
She may be newly divorced or fresh out of a relationship and not looking to date just one guy.
So by playing hard to get, I lost a guy I was really into.
I share that information in my last tip, so that maybe you won’t make the same mistake, you’ll communicate better and know when to walk away or try to make it work.
This may present itself as a game, but with a little extra planning to ask a date out in advance, I’ll bet you’ll hear a lot more “yes’s” and feel like women are a lot less hard to get.
We all know there is often a power struggle in the game of love.
We need to pay attention to timing, as timing is everything, but we also want to pay attention to behavior.
I have had a lot of friends (male and female) and clients talk to me about how they met someone online, hit it off, even and you need to learn the difference.
This became an issue for us both and instead of being the bigger person and communicating with him, I played games and hard to get, intentionally logging onto the site and leaving it open so he would see me on there. Well, as most of you have guessed, my games backfired and he told me he did not want to date a woman who was always online seeking other men.
As a result, I have—unconsciously or unintentionally—taken him/it for granted. It happened to me recently and I can laugh about it now, but at the time I was freaked out, because he had been very consistent for the first month, then the curveball.
He knew what he was doing and I have to give him props for playing the game.
Now, Guys, I want to be clear, this does not mean that we don’t want to spend time with you, but that we really don’t have it to give you right now. You will know quickly which woman is playing and which is truly busy, but is also into you.
The latter will make an effort to see you as soon as she can. I am a rules girl and I choose not to accept a date the night of and, quite frankly, often not past Thursday morning for a weekend date.